Several weeks ago I read Tori Spellings new book, “Mommywood”, as I’m a fan of her reality show. I know, I can’t help it. I’m a bit of a reality show junky. I’m hooked. It’s totally my guilty pleasure. Thank you Tivo!
That being said, I had to ask myself what was it with Tori that drew me into this show? My children are mostly raised, and yes, I have daughter’s around the same age who are raising their own famlies. Was that it? No. It went deeper. Tori is a worry wort, who struggles to make it on her own even though she was raised in the most opulant style. She has pazazz, wit, humor and is creatively clever.
Tori’s energy and drive reminded me of myself at her age. I too was a worry wart and somehow, I was able to change that thanks to my dear friend who reminded me, that you must believe that your children, and those you love, are blessed. These words freed me from the tortment of constant worry. As a mother, I have said these words to others who have had irrational thoughts and worries as well. I think that is the reason I became hooked on her show. Tori is fun, silly and can throw a great party. She’s successful because of her hard work and she loves her family. Me too! This was the connection that drew me in and made me stay. I admire her perseverance to figure it all out and to reach for the stars. I needed to see what happened. I know I’m not alone, there are lot’s of you out there.
I still feel bad that her mother and her cannot connect but sometimes it just happens that way in life. It really comes down to expectations and perception when you are dealing with a problematic exchange between two people who should be able to communicate with one another but, for whatever reason, cannot. We all perceive information differently. My children will laugh when I say this as they’ve all heard it many times. But it’s true and they would be the first to agree. That if you expect nothing and the person does something you will be pleased…but if you expect something and they do nothing, or not enough, or the wrong way, you will always live your life in disappointment. Sounds easy, but it’s hard to have low expectations of someone, especially your mother! I feel for her on those accounts. A few of her friends have been guiding her towards this thought process without saying it as directly, so we shall see what evolves. She’s a smart girl I think she’ll figure it out.
I love the fact that her friends are so important to her and play such a role in her life. Good friends are priceless. However, with all the creative energy flowing around the house how could an entire season go by and no one suggest that the entrance to her home not be jazzed up. I mean a couple of large black urns next to the front door with some beautiful topiaries would do the trick! I know you must be thinking where does that come from…It must be the decorator in me or the artist, or maybe it’s the mom who wants it all to be perfect? Can you really have your cake and eat it too?
I guess I’ll stay tuned to find out.
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